Browsed by
Category: Why Pornography is not a good thing

helping educate and instruct parents on how to effectively talk to their children about pornography, why it is destructive and how to avoid

Create Real Connection with Your Teen

Create Real Connection with Your Teen

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

If you have a teen that is struggling with sexual sin, I get your pain and your sorrow and your guilt.  I am a Catholic mom of eight children, aged 9-24. I have made tons of mistakes in my mothering. It’s not easy raising children in today’s world.

I believe that the biggest temptation facing our children today is the internet. Our children, young and old, are in the midst of massive temptations and pressures.

I have written extensively about two key components needed in this fight.

  • You must create a safe home, meaning no open access to the internet.
    • We recommend filtering AND accountability in the form of Covenant Eyes and possibly Open DNS.
  • You must intentionally talk to your child about love, lust, pornography and sexual temptations.

Read More Read More

A Divine Moment in Lincoln, Nebraska

A Divine Moment in Lincoln, Nebraska

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

Last Tuesday night I was in the middle of giving a presentation at St. Peter’s Catholic School in Lincoln, Nebraska, when I just stopped.
I stood in the middle of their gym, in front of 300 parents, and as I looked at my adult son, Eric, I had a Divine Moment.
Many of you reading this already know our story; for those of you that don’t know us, I am a large, loud Catholic mother of eight. I live in a small town west of Wichita, Kansas. I was happy living my life, hanging out with my husband, doing laundry and helping kids with homework.
One fateful night I was bringing sheets down into Eric’s room. When I opened the door I found more than I wanted to see.
My good, funny, intelligent child was looking at porn.
Thus began about a six-year journey, as we ventured into incredibly new and somewhat terrifying waters, at least for me, the mother. (Although having your mother walk in on you…in that compromising situation…is its own kind of terrifying.)

Read More Read More

Let’s Stop the Crazy Train. Take the Dare.

Let’s Stop the Crazy Train. Take the Dare.

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

When I was in grade school a teacher was walking down the hall in a green dress. It had a zipper in the front, but it had obviously broken. As she walked towards me, I saw her black slip. I knew she would want to know.

So I walked up to her and said, “Mrs. Tenopir, your zipper broke.”

She looked down, horrified. She ran home in her trench coat (she lived three doors down from school) and came back, ready for the afternoon.

Later on, she sat me down and said thank you. I was like, “No big deal,” and she said, “No, you need to realize how big of a deal that was. I walked around like that for hours and no one else told me. My fellow teachers didn’t tell me. You, a fourth grader, told me.”

So, why am I telling you this story?

Read More Read More

Your Kid Screwed Up. Now What?

Your Kid Screwed Up. Now What?

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

On Monday of this week, my oldest son, Eric, and I gave a talk to a large group of young adults here in Wichita.

The group: Theology on Tap.

Our topic: The Brain and Porn Addiction.

During the presentation, I shared my version of how I raised Eric and then he shared “the rest of the story.”

I didn’t know my kid had a porn habit.

When I found out, I handled it well. I cried for two weeks. I didn’t let my child see my tears, but I was a hot mess.

Read More Read More

Daring to Parent

Daring to Parent

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

My husband, Russ, and I have eight children, ages ranging from 8-23. Our parenting has radically changed over the years.

We are now DARING TO PARENT.

I will make an extremely important point about why it had to change, but first,
Russ and I are blessed to have several go-to priests. Their hearts are set on God and they have a relentless pursuit of all that is good and holy.
They are also fun and we love to hang out with them.
Russ and I had a priest friend over for some deep red wine and good conversation awhile ago. He is a man that knows our secrets yet loves us anyway. Sort of like Jesus.

Read More Read More

Get out of Porn, Part 6: Healing

Get out of Porn, Part 6: Healing

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

This post is intended for mature readers over the age of 14. Please and thank you.

This series began as a follow-up to a talk my adult son, Eric, and I gave at K-State. We had forty-five minutes to talk about the plague of pornography.

That was just enough time to sketch the problem.

When I returned home, I wanted to give the students more. So this six-part series has been a way to continue that conversation.

As I wrap up, I want to touch on healing. Oh my stars. I love this part of the journey.

Read More Read More

Get out of Porn, Part 5: Practical Matters

Get out of Porn, Part 5: Practical Matters

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

This post is for readers over the age of 14. Please and thank you.
In the last two weeks I have discussed some strong points about pornography, specifically the physical and emotional aspects of addiction.
If you are a high school or college-aged student, I hope you read those posts. If you are stuck in your habit of porn use and masturbation, I hope you clearly heard and understood that it is not your fault.
We are in a war and those that are fighting for your soul have used your own biology to get you trapped.

Read More Read More

Get out of Porn, Part 4: Talk to Your Parents

Get out of Porn, Part 4: Talk to Your Parents

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

This post is intended for students in high school and college. This is not intended for children under the age of 14. Please and thank you.
Last month my son, Eric, and I spoke to about 150 students at St. Isadore’s at Kansas State University.
Our topic was on pornography. Eric shared his long struggle with it and how he was able to finally emerge out of the addiction. He now works to help others get out. I am super proud of him.
However, when I first discovered his struggle, it set me back. See, like most parents, I thought I’d somehow have these amazingly fantastic children that never sinned.
And truthfully, I didn’t want to know his whole story. It meant that I had failed; I would have preferred to live on the Island of Make-Believe.

Read More Read More

Get Out of Porn, Part 3: Love vs Lust

Get Out of Porn, Part 3: Love vs Lust

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

I was talking to one of my favorite priests about the differences between love and lust.

I asked him point blank, “So, a teenager is usually full of hormones and sometimes they get so hot they almost self-combust. What does choosing real love over lust get them?”

He quietly replied, “The Cross.”

I was silent for a second. Truthfully, I wanted a better answer. “What do you mean, they will get the cross?”

“Lori, self-sacrifice is about learning how to love like Jesus Loved. And He loved us to death on the cross. Choosing real love over lust will get people the cross.”

“Father….who would willingly choose the cross?”

“Those that want to live in real peace and have true freedom.”

Read More Read More

Get Out of Porn, Part 1: The Brain

Get Out of Porn, Part 1: The Brain

Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

Latest posts by Lori Doerneman (see all)

This is Part 1 of a 6 part series on porn use. Here is a link to The Introduction. This series is geared towards high school and college aged students and the content is not appropriate for kids under the age of 14.

GET OUT OF PORN: THE BRAIN

I start with the brain because, in my opinion, it is essential to understand the brain and how it was designed. If you can understand the science, then you can have more compassion for yourself and for others.

And, most importantly, if you understand the science, then you can use that information and get out of porn!

Read More Read More

Please enter Google Username or ID to start!
Example: clip360net or 116819034451508671546
Title
Caption
File name
Size
Alignment
Link to
  Open new windows
  Rel nofollow