Holy Hannah, life is spectacular.
My oldest son, Eric Scott Doerneman, is marrying the most amazing woman, Jillian Claire Prather!
I love, love, love Jillian. She is a perfect match for Eric. They met at Kansas State University; Eric graduated from the college two years ago with a degree in Mechanical Engineering. Jillian will graduate in May with a degree in Industrial Engineering.
I know, I know, two engineers. How will that work, right? Well, neither one is your typical engineer. They both have personality! They are fun and funny. They are wicked smart. They have vision. They are full of life and I love them both to pieces.
And it’s in Madison, Wisconsin.
So Eric, being smart, asked his girlfriend to be his fiance. Their wedding is in June.
Who needs a year and a half to plan a wedding, anyway?
I love, love, love that they are going to be going on a fantastic adventure right away, moving halfway across the country. I am so happy for them. I love that they will see new sights and meet new people. I love that they will truly have only each other for a bit, until they get established and find new friends and fun co-workers.
I love that.
I love Jillian’s family. As a bonus, they are related to friends (David and Karen Schinstock) here in Wichita, so the wedding should be super fun.
Now, I could go on and on and on about life and love, but I thought it would be interesting to ask YOU for your advice on married life! Please leave comments in my Facebook feed or down below this post. (You have to put in your email but that system is only used to keep the trolls away.)
Just look over these questions and if you have something you could give my man child and his bride-to-be on one of these topics (or add your own!) I’m sure they’ll appreciate it! And if something doesn’t strike them, it will probably be good for others to hear. We all need bolstering in our vocation.
- What’s the best part of being married?
- What was the most surprising thing about being married?
- If you could do anything differently, what would it be?
- What do they NEED in their married life?
- What advice would you give them for handling money? (This is what most married couples fight over.) Was there something that made a difference for you?
- Do you have any special thoughts or tips about the actual wedding?
- Any tips about Madison, Wisconsin?
Okay, now my turn for advice. Let’s see, number one, work on communication. However that has to happen, Eric and Jillian, just do it. SO MANY TIMES I felt things but didn’t voice them. Silly me. Once I voiced something, the situation got resolved because I married a kind, loving man.
So, my most practical piece of advice: every so often, at least once a month, but preferably every week, take a bottle of wine and go get comfy in a nice spot. TALK about whatever you need to discuss. Listen deeply to each other. Live your married life on purpose.
Oh, and of course, know that no matter what, you are both human. You cannot be the savior of the other. I know you know that. I KNOW YOU KNOW THAT. But when married, it’s odd. We believe the movie version of our lives should be happening.
Keep a right understanding about that. GOD is the Higher Power, the Savior, Your Source of Power, not each other. When you make each other frustrated, it’s good to step back and see the bigger picture, “Oh, yeah, you are simply human. It’s okay. I love you. Let’s go out for pizza.”
One last thing: your gene pool is fabulously stocked. Your children will be such a blessing to this world.
“Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday.” -The Clergyman, Princess Bride