My son, Eric Doerneman, was going to get married in a month, on June 10th.
Plans have changed. Eric and Jillian Prather are no longer getting married.
When Eric told us this news, I was shocked. I did NOT see it coming.
However, as the story unfolded, both Eric and Jillian saw it coming. And they were strong enough and courageous enough to step back and assess their relationship, knowing that it wasn’t exactly what they had hoped it would be or could be.
Russ and I, once we got over the surprise of this turn of events, have one emotion: gratefulness.
We are grateful that Eric was able to be in a long-term relationship with such a witty, beautiful, intelligent woman such as Jillian.
We are grateful for the emotional gifts received in those years.
We are grateful for their maturity in handling the ending of their relationship.
As we have begun to tell our friends and family, we have heard MANY stories of broken engagements. Seems many people have walked this difficult road. Others, now divorced, have said that they wish they would have had the guts to call it quits before their marriage. They knew it wasn’t right but they just kept moving forward.
So, there is a whole new landscape of emotions being exposed. Difficult, yes, but good.
My besties keep texting me, asking me how I am doing/feeling. Truth to be told, I am sad, because I do have a mama’s heart and I was maybe naming future grandchildren. I knew they would be gorgeous because Jillian is gorgeous. And they’d be brilliant, because both J and E are super smart. So, yes, it is odd to let go of the potential future that I had been weaving within my heart and mind.
But in the end, my mama’s heart does not matter! It just doesn’t. A mama is not the pulse in a relationship. It’s the couple.
I trust both Jillian and Eric. They were mature and wise in their decision-making process. It takes tremendous courage to call off a wedding. It just does. I AM PROUD OF THEM.
I also know that they will both land on their feet. They are both incredibly savvy and forward-thinking. They have vision and a deep zest for life.
It will be interesting to see where God will lead them.