I am struggling with my blog.

I will just be honest. I am trying to figure out What To Do With It.

As Eric and I work on The Parenting Dare, our lives feel crazy audacious.

We are climbing this massive mountain. With each move forward, we find an outcropping of rock, we grab it and pull ourselves upwards. We stabilize ourselves. We look up a few feet; we keep going upwards.


EVERYTHING. It’s exhilarating and scary and demanding. Every inner resource is being tapped.

I know we are engaging the enemy. We both spend a lot of time in prayer every day. We ask for your prayers, too. St. Michael, defend us in battle.

Eric keeps working on the backside of our website. I keep working on the creation of content as well as learning how to market. We are now social entrepreneurs, using BUSINESS to change our culture. Isn’t that cool?

We are getting booked for speaking engagements. (We’d love to come and talk to your group/church/parent organization! See how good I am at this marketing gig? Our contact info is on our website: The Parenting Dare.)

Eric is teaching me many new skills. I am old. He is not. I would have given up a long, long time ago and been content with reading from my Kindle on my deck. He keeps pushing me up the mountain.

We  have deep discussions multiple times a day. We talk often about the AMOUNT of children being exposed to hard core porn and NO ONE KNOWS. NO ONE SEES.

He personally knows the devastation. That drives him.

We keep asking:

  • How do we we get parents, good parents, fantastic parents, to realize that there is an evil that is prowling right outside their door? And without knowing any better, they will most likely INVITE that evil into their home?
  • How to open their eyes?
  • How to get them to become aware?

What would have helped me???? Because I let the evil in, too. I didn’t know any better.

We keep climbing. ALL of our senses are on overdrive.

And then I remember I need to write a blog post.

It’s like I am climbing, focused, and someone wants to talk about what they had for dinner the night before.

lori.needs.your.help.It’s darn difficult to take my mind off the climb long enough to engage with this other self.

It feels fake, fluffy. I am not loving the blog writing process and that means one thing: My Writing Won’t Hit Home. I wrote a post yesterday, Every Problem Has a Solution. I knew what I wanted to say. But I didn’t take the time to make it mine. I just pushed it out.

Something has to change.

I don’t want to give up my blog, because it’s my baby. It’s just becoming my neglected baby.

The best bloggers should inspire and lead us gently back to ourselves.

I want to write. I want to write for you. That’s my heart’s desire.

So, if you would be so kind, could you take a moment from your day and remind me why I should keep blogging? I know it’s a selfish request. But Lori needs your help. Big time.

I am at a huge cross roads. I know this because my hair is falling out. I have a thyroid condition and whenever I get pregnant or stressed, there goes my hair. I am not pregnant. (My husband, Russ, just visibly relaxed.)

I’d so appreciate your insight. As in, kiss-you-full-on-the-mouth type of appreciation. Well, maybe not. There went some more hair.

You can email me at prayerandducttape@gmail.com. You can instant message me. You can reply in the comment section on my blog or on Facebook.

Okay, first of all, tell me a little about yourself. Your age, occupation, family dynamics…how many kids, etc.

What specifically, if anything, do you love reading from me?

  • What posts resonated?
  • What do you want more of?
  • What makes you laugh?
  • What do you want more of?

On the topic of love/lust/sex/porn education…

  • Is there anything that terrifies you?
  • Have you talked to your child about porn?
  • Why or why not?

I love to write about food and sugar and alcohol.

  • Is that boring to you?
  • Do you love that topic?
  • Do you struggle with your food/liquid consumption?
  • Do you obsess quietly?
  • Where are you on that spectrum?

How about just general child rearing?

  • What blog posts on this wide world web attract you?
  • What do you love reading?
  • When you think about your children, what makes you laugh?
  • What makes you wonder? Specifically? Acne? Moods? Clothes? Bullying? Homework? Friendship?

I sometimes want to go deeper into marriage, into the vulnerable, sexual parts. How to be more “there” for our men. Does that sound like something you’d want to read? My friend keeps telling me I gotta write about orgasms. I laugh skittishly. Why?? Why do I have to write about orgasms? “Because we all want them and don’t know how to relax enough to have them. You’re brave enough to go there with us.” I think Redbook covers that. I am not sure that should be a Blog Topic. Thoughts?

I love self care and am finally getting much better at it. I love taking time to balance and reset. I finally have the time. I wish I would have made the time when my kids were in the crazy stages. Do you want to know more?

Please send to: prayerandducttape@gmailcom or comment below.

I WILL kiss your feet. Seriously.


Lori Doerneman

Lori Doerneman

I love my marriage consummated and my Jesus consecrated. I also love seeing the eternal in the ordinary tasks of every day life. That's why I write.
Lori Doerneman

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6 thoughts on “Lori.Needs.Your.Help.

  1. Hey Lori,
    You write your blog posts for me….a parent beyond parenting and into grandparenting who doesn’t know how to do it in this day and time.
    I read your heart about life and love what I see on the page….truth, honesty, courage and hope. I gave your Parenting Dare information to our daughter, who has our twin 10 year old grandsons, but I personally cannot use that so much. It’s your regular blog posts about how you see life that I love. You’re a great mama and a great writer and that’s a tantalizing combination. You have a voice and a lot to say. Keep saying it.
    I’m about to start talking, too.

  2. I’ve read several of your blogs and I love that you have the guts to write about porn. It seems like it’s a topic nobody wants to write about. There aren’t many blogs out there approaching this topic. Having dealt with porn in my own life your blogs gave me her hope that other people have dealt with this and seen the other side. Thank you!

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